Nothing is more annoying when you see a child being rude to a friend or someone else. Rudeness is when someone says or does something that is inappropriate and unpleasant to others, so reluctant to be around.
Being rude is an inappropriate, embarrassing and irritating act. We need to learn to overcome this, as more and more examples of how people behave and act roughly in response to something. And that is not a good example for our children to see.
This is where the role of parents to direct the child's behavior so that it does not become a habit in everyday life. Parents should be able to give control of the child's emotional expression, and lead him in a positive and beneficial direction.
There are actually two things that are the main reasons why a child acts roughly.
1. Ignorance
Ignorance can cause a child to act harshly, because they do not know how to handle a situation well. Negative emotions are entirely careful and mindful, so the rough response in the form of behavior and speech moves quickly to be raised. Ignorance here can also be interpreted lack of understanding in good behavior.
2. Be Selfish
We live in a self-loving world. The culture around us adapts us to appearances on personal appearance, feelings, and desires as a priority. The goal is toward happiness as high as possible, but this pattern is very dangerous in relation to each other.
Unfortunately this understanding has been ingrained in man since he was born. You can see how a child behaves selfishly in his innocence, but in a mature person selfishness often appears as a painful attitude.
Why do we have such a low standard for ourselves, but high expectations of others? And the answer to this, is like a bitter pill to swallow. Because we are selfish. Then how to deal with a child who is rude?
Both of these are not good things. A child born without knowing good ethics, they need to learn and practice to be good on a continual basis.
As the following wise say:
"In the science of planting, if you want to change the fruit, the modification should start from the roots. So also in a person. To be able to change what appears from the outside, that is our behavior and actions. First we must change what is inside us. Something that is not visible, that is our mindset and perspective "~ T. Harv Eker
If we understand the root cause, then overcome it from the roots.
1. Overcome His Ignorance
Basically as described above, that no one likes or is close to a rude person, including people who are accustomed to being rude. Therefore one needs to know and hold 3 principles in relation to each other. Here's the principle:
- Treat your neighbor as you would like to be treated
- Learn and try to understand, tolerate others, especially to the family.
- Learn to commit. To be able to control how to behave and speak, try evaluation in a family setting. Because if you start from outside the family, sometimes other people can not accept the behavior and provoke a commotion.
2. Discipline Overcoming Excessive Selfishness
Selfishness is a feeling in the heart, just like feelings of hatred, love, anger and fear. Selfishness comes in the form of selfish behavior, whereas love comes with attention and giving behavior. Likewise with fear, will appear in the form of avoidance or close behavior.
Basically feelings in the heart can be governed. True, you do not read wrong. Feelings can be governed. Have you ever been angry with someone then met somewhere, and then your colleague asked her to speak. Because you feel "uncomfortable" if you do not respond well, then instantly there is an order within you that goes on so you respond well in the conversation.
Selfish can also be governed, by learning to give and want to give in and be patient. At first it would be uncomfortable and unusual, but if well intended it would be possible. It depends on the discipline and intention of change.
For example, in a week teach children to deliberately give cake to family members or friends at school. Then improve this consistently, will definitely bring about a change in his life. Giving is not just stuff, but it can also be time and effort. Good habits are accustomed to in your child's life, will form a good character in his life.
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